An Addendum and Happiness

From David Brooks of the NYTimes and the New Yorker

From his article "Social Animal"
"Happiness is a measure of how thickly the unconscious parts of our minds are intertwined with other people and with activities. Happiness is determinded by how much information and affection flows through covertly every day and year."

So I feel like I need to write an addendum to my previous post - and David Brook's quote does tie in, just bare with me.

My addendum is this - that I did the best I could and was a brave as I could be over the last year. I was reflecting back and considering what I might of done differently - not to wish that things might have been different - but to learn how to be happier now by making wiser choices. As I said that I couldn't conquer my fear and later on my anger and in that I also wish I made different choices; to be forgiven for not doing it prefectly or better or more gracefully, but rather humanly. In looking back to learn and remember that I was a victim of my fear and anger, but maybe not of cancer, and that what is done is done, what happened, happened, maybe for a reason beyond my understanding and that is learning to be a little wiser and happier now. To balance between my empowerment and victim of my fear in being human in coping. I can't change the past, nor do I want to - in many ways I am proud of how I coped with cancer. I did the best I could and try to deal with as gracfully and creativily as I could. And this is where David Brook's article quote comes in - that it is, at least for me, true. Happiness comes from being social and that is the better choice I am making now and in the future - to be more social - to be with people to surround myself with affection.

So now go read David Brooks article in the New York - it is funny, well written and very interesting.....