being hard on myself

Okay - so I have a confession - and maybe I have confessed it before here - but I think I am hard on myself - meaning I take things too seriously, panic with things don't go "right" - that is what I see as the way things should go or a way that I have invested some positive energy to move forward and sometimes chastise myself when they go wrong. I just put it out there - right now I am not sure how to address this but I do have some ideas. I keep telling myself - take it easy on me - let it go. Sometimes it is hard to know what to hold onto and what to let go of. And sometimes it changes. Maybe lowering my standards a little - meaning focusing on what is really important and letting go stuff that I just don't need to be done now. Or telling me "Cut yourself a break" - "Do you really need to do this npw?" or "Is this really important?"- "what can you do to feel happy or focus on something that takes your mind away from all the details I think I need to take care of." - So just saying this to all of you makes me mindful of it - it gets it out of my head and gut so it can run around - at least for today and bother me - and I will just keep trying not to be so hard on myself.