An insight

Anger is not negative.

I have spent all these years under the misconception that anger was negative and to be avoided, not expressed, silenced and pushed away in order to be a good girl and compliant woman. Well, we get angry for a reason. Anger is a warning system for us. Anger tells us something is wrong that needs to be addressed. Anger can tell us that someone else has disrespected us, dishonored us, crossed an important personal boundary. Having anger means we care about or have a passion about something. Like tears, happiness, and sorrow, anger itself isn't negative, it is what we do with it, that can be damaging. I am trying to learn not to squelch and stuff my anger away behind the "everything is okay" door. I am trying to learn how to express my anger and to work with my anger in positive ways. Anger can be a very creative engery. Anger is so uncomfortable and that can be a reason why I have run away from it for so long. I never learned how to express my anger wisely so that it is a creative force versus a distructive force. I have only seen its distructive side until now - I thought anger only caused hurt and I didn't want to hurt anyone at any price. I was so worried about hurting other peoples feeling that I neglected my own expressing my own feelings.