two things

I did it! I told someone I was angry, why I was angry, what boundary they had crossed and what they might do if a similar situation happens again. I didn't melt like the wicked witch of the west, I stood my ground firmly. The other person apologized. It was as simple as that. Most important I am not stewing about it now. I said something and that is that.

Other boarder lines - between speaking up about anger and fear and being honest with myself and being a victim - using the language of the victim - not sure where this boundary is. Between being strong and speaking what for me needs to be spoken and sounding like a victim. Where does one end and the other begin?